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The ego
convinces us that we haven't done enough legwork because of one
reason: it doesn't like the unknown.
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| Even though the ego is a formidable
foe, it is not infallible. Here are a few steps to help
you move off dead center and back into action. |
By RTO Online guest contributor Theresa Rose
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Have you ever found yourself
endlessly obsessing over an issue, unable to move beyond it?
When dealing with a problem or potential opportunity, do you
ever have dozens of seemingly unanswerable questions swirling
around your brain? If so, you may be suffering from one of the
most common afflictions known to the modern worker: analysis
paralysis.
At some point we have all found ourselves in the crushing
grip of this dreaded condition where we simply can't make a
decision no matter how much we want to get to the end zone. We
convince ourselves that we don't have all the facts, the timing
isn't quite right, something bad will happen if we take action,
or we just haven't conjured up the right solution yet. These
feelings of unreadiness and unsteadiness cause us to squander
precious time and lose our peace of mind. What is the root cause
of this all-too-prevalent mental malaise? It is our own egos.
The ego convinces us that we haven't done enough legwork
because of one reason: it doesn't like the unknown. Imagine your
ego as a person who is deathly afraid of heights. It would
rather remain firmly, safely planted on the ground instead of
jumping out of an airplane to experience a thrilling skydive.
When you are about to embark on something new, your ego senses
that change is imminent; in its panic, your ego will betray you
if you allow it. It will plant all sorts of ridiculous scenarios
in your head in order to keep you from acting. In your quiet
moments, it will whisper in your ear that you will lose your
job, home, family, and livelihood if you make the “wrong”
decision. It's most fervent desire is to have you frozen in fear
until the wonderful opportunity – whether it is that completed
project, the fantastic promotion, your big move, or the new job
– passes you by.
Even though the ego is a formidable foe, it is not
infallible. Here are a few steps to help you move off dead
center and back into action.
1. Set the timer.
Give yourself a defined period of time to finish the process
of data gathering. Chances are you probably already know
everything you need to know. If you like, you can bop around in
your cerebral spin cycle for a few more days and pick up those
last bits of information. However, it is important to accept the
fact that there will always be unknown factors; you will never
have all of the data about a particular subject. When you come
to terms with the inevitable unknown, you can then make a
decision based on what you know today.
2. Listen to your gut.
What does your instinct tell you to do? What option brings
you the most satisfaction and joy? What feels right? When your
fear is no longer driving the decision-making process, you can
trust the guidance you receive from your intuition. It is the
most talented business analyst you'll ever have at your
disposal.
3. Ask for a second opinion.
Now that you have an idea about what you want to do, run your
arguments past an impartial judge such as a trusted friend or
colleague. Make sure you don't choose someone who is vested in a
particular outcome or who will tell you only what you want to
hear. Present your cases as if you are in front of the Supreme
Court; make them clear, succinct and convincing. Encourage your
friend to ask you questions in order to solidify his or her
understanding. When you are finished, ask for feedback on your
arguments, both on content and delivery. Where in your
presentation did you have the most energy? Confidence and
enthusiasm are always good indicators of the most appropriate
solution.
4. Do a mental dry run.
Once you've decided on which path to take, begin the journey
in your mind first. Mentally play out your decision exactly as
you wish it to be. Fill in all of the details of the outcome,
including your feelings, the environment, the reactions of
others, the financial benefit, and any other positive result
stemming from your decision. Mentally replay this imaginary
outcome over and over again until you feel utterly confident in
moving forward.
5. Take the leap.
Make a commitment to act by a certain date and follow through
on your commitment without hesitation. Rest assured that you
will hear the nagging voice of your own second-guessing ringing
in your ears. Expect it. It is nothing more than your ego's
final ‘Hail Mary' attempt to keep you locked in a state of
inertia. All great leaders hear that same nagging voice, yet
they choose to act anyway. You can do it, too.
The most important step to bust through analysis paralysis is
to adopt a trusting, Zen-like attitude. Remind yourself that
whatever happens is supposed to happen. There are no mistakes,
wrong turns or missed opportunities. If you remember that, in
the larger context, everything occurs exactly as it should, you
can cut yourself some slack. Any outcome is far preferable to
the physical, mental, and emotional price you pay when
perpetually brewing in fear, doubt, and uncertainty. Isn't it
time to take off those cement boots and take the leap?
Theresa Rose is an
inspirational speaker and award-winning author of the new book,
"Opening the Kimono." As founder of Serious Mojo Publications,
Theresa specializes in fresh approaches to energy management,
productivity and creative development. Her experience includes
owning a healing center, senior manager of a Fortune 100 firm,
and vice president of a consulting firm. For more information,
visit www.TheresaRose.net.
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